Oh break ups! You have the raging row, you storm our the house, you put the angriest song on and drive home. What is our first instinct? Get on social media, slam him, put independent woman quotes, tweets 'girl problems' on the twitter. Don't worry we have all been there, you're not alone – in this digital age people are very quick to take to social media to express emotions (especially when alcohol has been involved.) But it's become a general second nature, think of all the photos of dinner in instagram! But when it comes to break ups? DON'T DO IT.
Instead, practice some social media break-up etiquette. Now, every
break-up is different, so not all of these rules will apply to any
one relationship. They are more like guidelines for a happier social
media life. So, heed the warnings! Here is our advice
Do NOT rant about your Ex on Facebook. Everyone wants to do this.
It has become almost an instinctive reaction to either good or bad
news. The whole Facebook world needs to know about it, right? Wrong.
Please, keep that shit to yourself. Because you know what? Think
about it when we see people post stuff like that, we laugh? we
analyse? And we make assumptions etc – so don't let you be that
person.
If you do want to post something, then post something positive,
something good in your life and about new beginnings etc. So don't
post that clearly attention begging status such as 'Why do bad things
always happen to me?' it's attention seeking and quite frankly
annoying. Post something positive! This IS a new beginning.
Yes, feel free to delete your Ex, unfollow him, and basically
eliminate him from your social network. It’s your personal network,
and if you don’t want to see him/him to see you, by all means, get
rid of him. It can also be wise to do this especially if you find
yourself continuing to check his facebook/twitter/instagram it stops
you from being able to.
Defiantly do this to avoid the urge to stalk your ex after a few
wines at 2am. This is the biggest problem! As when you accidentally
hit like his status from 2011 or a picture, or see new girls
commenting etc well it's only going to make you feel bad.
However, I would advise against blocking the Ex, (unless
necessary). I know not everyone wants to be friends with an Ex, but
he/she was very close to you for a reason. By not blocking, you leave
the option for friendship open. However if he is cheating, lying
horrible bastard? Well they by all means block away. But from
experience I am friends with a few exes, and only because the door
was left open.
There is then the problem of the mutual friends, or being friends
with his family and friends. Now deleting them all straight away can
look bad, so possibly if you can just do it slowly weed them out over
a few weeks. That being said just because you met through your ex as
long as it doesn't cause any drama then why not stay friends with
them?
Angry? Got some pretty racey photos of your ex? Well don't post
them, don't honestly. Even if he has done you wrong, what are the
chances he has something you might not even know about? Save them for
a laugh, but if you post them it makes you look angry and upset (even
though you might be) but you're asking for a war, and trust me no one
will win.
Finally, when in doubt, do NOT post anything when you’re upset,
angry or sad. I’m talking anything. It could be liking a status,
tweeting something snarky, or just writing “I Miss You” on his
wall. Don’t do it! None of these are things that you’re going to
look back on in 24 hours and think, oh yeah, that was smart.
Break ups suck. It’s a fact of life. But Love is great, and
people will continue to search for it. Just remember, along the path
to finding that right guy, you’ll have some stumbles.
So, just make sure your social media self doesn’t create more
issues and drama than your real life.
