June 2014

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I know, I know it's been a while since we had one of these, but before I know it Tuesday is Friday! however I am going to make sure I keep up with it now! Lets go!

Putting horse heads on cats.

How lovely?

Cute socks.

Polaroids, always and forever.

Beautiful boho babes.

Best friends.

Vintage Cars

Yes.

Perfect Monday Mug

This dancing dog.

Little Things...

♥ Hilarious conversations with Charlotte about everything from dating, to football, to plans (soul sister right there!) ♥ Planning London digs for when me and Pixie go to stay and play! ♥ My best friends taking me out for dinner ♥ Good friends wherever they are in the world looking out for you ♥ Big Brother (Got obsessed this year!) ♥ Appletiser ♥ Listening to Wham! ♥ Sunshine ♥ New stock swooning ♥ Beach planning ♥ Hugs (there needs to be more of them) ♥ Watermelon ♥ Forming ridiculous bonds with people ♥ 'We are supporting Brazil, because Yellow looks good on me' ♥

How to Deal With a Rubbish Day

We’ve all had terrible, horrible, no good, very bad days. Whether you have had an argument with your friends, a bad day at work, a crush who turns out to like your best friend, a fight with a loved one, the list goes on. So we decided to put together our tips for dealing with a really shitty day!

Resist the urge to “treat” yourself.

I know when I feel down the first thing I want to do is grab a bottle of dry white wine, and wallow. However half the time this only really makes us feel worse. I mean we all know alcohol emphasises our feelings, and when we feel like rubbish, we are only going to feel worse for it. It's the same with sitting there eating a bucket of ice cream, it can lead to feelings of guilt, and make everything worse.

Do something nice for someone else.

“Do good, feel good” – this really works. Be selfless, if only for selfish reasons. When we do nice things for other people, we feel better it's a fact. So get doing those good deeds!

Distract yourself.

Sometimes over thinking about things can just make everything worse. It's good to find things to do that take your mind off it, whether it is going to watch a film, putting on your favourite comedy show, a long walk or just reading a good book it really can help.

Tell yourself, “Well, at least I…”

Just because you have had a terrible day doesn't mean everything has gone wrong. Even if you just say 'at least I went to the gym' or 'least I walked the dog' giving yourself praise for even smaller tasks is a good thing.

Stay in contact.

When you’re having a lousy day, it’s tempting to retreat into isolation. Studies show, though, that contact with other people boosts mood. So try to see or talk to people, especially people you’re close to.

Keep perspective.

Ask yourself: “Will this matter in a month? In a year?” Most of the time things really do seem so much worse at that very time, but in the larger scheme of things you will probably not even remember this incident.

Write it down.

When something horrible is consuming my mind, I find that if I write up a paragraph or two about the situation, I get immense relief.

Be grateful.

Remind yourself that a lousy day isn’t a catastrophic day. Be grateful that you’re still on the “lousy” spectrum. Probably, things could be worse.

Lastly look at this Kim Gif, I swear you will be smiling.

Chin up chickens!

Macro Monday 115

This is exactly how I feel about Mr Brightside.

I love the people that run companies twitter accounts!

Pretty Much

I find this way too funny.

Oh dear.

Bless.

So close!

Tinkie Winkie gets real.

Do love Tyler's tweets.

Fantastic.

Why Does Facebook Suck?

Source

I have always been one of those rare creatures that doesn't and never really has used facebook. My personal account is only there because I use it for the Wonderland Clothing page, and to be honest I probably only know around 5 people IRL on my friends list (I get a lot of random adds and have no idea who they are!) However, over the weekend I was talking to my friends (noticing a pattern of blog posts here!) anyway we all decided that the following were the most annoying things about facebook.

Little Alfie did a #2 in the big boy potty last night.

I have to say that sharing this kind of information with people on facebook is just not necessary. I do not care that your child has taken a shit for the first time. People on twitter don't do this, so why do people on facebook? I find it even crazier that since I barely know people on my friends list, I still get to see these updates - so adding randoms and sharing this information just seems insane to me! Leave this kind of stuff for at home, only.

The people with perfect lives.

You know the ones I mean, they basically have the greatest lives in the whole wide world, everything is so great and they must tell you this throughout the day. Nothing ever goes wrong, social life, work life, everything is great! They tend to have 'cheeky' glasses of wine, feel 'blessed' and call their significant other 'hubby' etc. Enough, if life was that great you wouldn't need to tell the world.

The Gym Bunnies

I honestly don't understand why people feel the need to share this information with people, I really don't. When I go to the gym (which is sometimes, aherm well never) I am feeling sweaty, unattractive, hungry and do not feel the need to tell 800 people I am there. I don't care if you go to the gym, anymore than I care if you go to the supermarket. So stop it.

Facebook Hashtaggers

It's for twitter, not for facebook. Leave it at that.

My Life is Over

As fun as it is to watch people air out their dirty laundry on facebook, and basically beg for attention and sympathy posts etc I just cannot deal with it. I am sorry your baby daddy left you for your dads best friends gay uncle, but I also don't really care.

Facebook Relationships.

Publicising completely private moments gives me the creeps. Quit bragging and go hang out with each other... in person.

Facebook Chat

Pretty much letting creepy men talk to you, and not taking a hint. Honestly some of the messages I get are literally insane.

On that final note, this is why I am sticking to twitter! I tweet over at @oxWonderland - if you tweet leave your handle in the comments!

Meeting The Parents For The First Time - Our Tips!

The other night myself and some friends were talking about meeting our other halves parents for the first time. One of my best friends hates her inlaws (to the point of seperate Christmases) One has never met them, one doesn't remember meeting them, and so forth. Many of us have been through the 'meeting the parents' dance, and sometimes it is a fun affair, and sometimes it isn't. However whatever the guy says, to him this is a big deal. Because often men do listen to what their family says, and if Mama bear hates you? Well it's going to be an uphill battle. So after discussing it put together my fool proof plan of making it work! (I say fool proof, don't quote me on this if it still goes south!)

Dress well but don't over do it. You actually don't want to look like you have tried so hard that it comes across as desperation, which is a very fine line. But then you also don't want to come across like you haven't tried at all. Keep it simple, without showing too much flesh, keep it classy without being boring you catching my drift? It's the same with when it comes to helping out in the kitchen. I know my mum hates it when people try and take over in there, so this is a big no no. Ask to help sooner rather than later – makes it look like you are willing to help out, without coming across as pushy. It's also a good chance to have some one on one time with the females (stereotypes ahoy!) as well, which means they will bond with you and if you hit it off? They will be crushed if you ever break up.

You know all those quotes that exist on the internet about first impressions? It's because that shit is important! You don't have to nail it, you just don't want to fuck it up. If you are brash and loud, he may love this – they may not – tone that shit down. DO NOT get drunk, it is not the time or the place for this. If you say or do one wrong thing this first weekend it can ruin you, you are being judged this weekend, future visits things will probably calm down and be easier – this one? No everything you say and do is being judged so be on your best behaviour!

Siblings, the sister is normally the one you really have to win over (doesn't have one?) you're in luck! Siblings are much more likely to know about your relationship, the real life happenings, not the sugar coated part you tell your parents. If they don't like you? Well just got with it to be honest, sucking up is not the way to go here. It's the same with presents, you want to take something with you (don't go without any gift) but also don't over do it – because sometimes doing too much is just as bad as doing not enough. Chocolates and flowers are the normal winners here – or a middle of the road bottle of wine.

When it comes down to it, be yourself even if that’s a toned down version of yourself for a few hours. If you fail, you will fail on your own terms, and if his family doesn't accept you for who you are? you're probably in the wrong place to begin with.