How To Be A Social Badass!

We have all been there, been in a situation that makes us uncomfortable, worried and anxious. How can we deal with it? well become a social badass! So what is a social badass? A social badass is an individual who dominates social situations without anxiety or trepidation of any kind. You know the one I mean right? we all know them!

Ok so anyone able to actually do this? Well fear not here are our tips of the badassery of being socially awesome. These are just fun tips, on how to become super confident!  

So how to do it? Make Eye Contact, If someone asks you what you’re staring at, just smile and respond, “Sorry, I thought you were an old friend.” Focus on one eye and be sure to blink occasionally so you don’t look like a psycho. Also many people forget that by just saying 'Hi' it doesnt make us mental, it makes us friendly - people actually like being spoken to (well most!) always have a smile when you say it, or else you might well scare people! Warning: Some people will completely ignore you and not respond, but don’t be discouraged. There are some very shy and/or angry people in this world and you have just given them one more reason to have faith in mankind.

Challenge yourself. The point of these challenges is to become comfortable with the most extreme social behavior so normal interaction becomes a piece of cake. If you’re fine driving at 120 mph, 60 is going to be easy to the point of boredom. Do something that will inevitably making people stare. Social anxiety is rooted in the fear of being looked at as weird, so face that fear head-on by acting strange. Wear some crazy clothing like neon short-shorts or the fanciest frock you have which you wouldn't normally wear in the day. Put your hair into the weirdest monstrosity for an entire day - you get the idea.

Now this one terrifies me, Get Phone Numbers. According to pick-up-artists, the best method is to walk over and ask immediately when you see someone of interest to avoid over-thinking. Don’t give yourself any time to talk yourself out of it! Here’s an example script from author Tim Ferris: 

“Excuse me, I know this is going to sound strange, but if I don’t ask you know, I’ll be kicking myself for the rest of the day. I’m running to meet a friend [i.e., I have friends and am not a stalker], but I think you’re really [extremely, drop dead] cute [gorgeous, beautiful, hot]. Could I have your phone number? You can give me a fake one if you’re not interested.” 

 

Lastly try anchoring? what is anchoring you say? In short, anchoring is the attachment of a feeling/sensation/emotion to a specific physical movement. They are used to cause an immediate change in your attitude via a physical stimulus.

Think of the most badass person that you can think of. This can be from a TV/movie character or someone you know in real life. Choose someone who you are intimately familiar with so that you know specific details to emulate. Mine is Samantha Jones (Sex and the city, not all the time but she's oozes confidence!

Imagine how this person walks, talks, thinks and drinks. Try to imagine exactly how this person feels when they’re walking through some place. How fast do they turn their head when someone calls their name? What is their posture like? Do they make constant eye-contact? Master their every mannerism.

Now go forth and be a social badass!