Why isn't he/she asking me out?

You like him, he likes you (you think) but he hasn't asked you out. Why? Well I am not dating guru, but here are my tips and possible reasons why he isn't asking you out. Some are blunt, some are obvious, some may just be my opinion but hey here you go! 

He just got out of a bad relationship and he does, not matter what games you think he is playing or google tells you, just want to be single for a while. (Been there, done that and it isn't an excuse) 

He is not over his ex. 

You avoid him at all costs, even if it is because you are just hella nervous. (Would you ask someone out if they avoided you?) 

He thinks you see him as just a friend. Treat him that way, he will think that way. Or he sees you as just a friend – and if he does – you have two options, be his friend and be OK with that (if you're not you will throw yourself into a state of hurt) or not be OK with that and cut ties. 

You're his late night drunk fun time phone call. (you get my drift)

You're intimidating, you have been playing the games you think you should play, you play hard to get, send mixed signals. If you send mixed signals, he will get mixed signals. Be honest, and clear.
He doesn't want to stay in the area, wants to move abroad / is moving abroad. No relationship really wants to start as a long distance one. The stats don't like. 

You avoid him at all costs, even if it is because you are just hella nervous. (Would you ask someone out if they avoided you?) 

He thinks you're out of his league.

You go on and on about all the dates you are going on, and how you think this guy 'might be the start of something' it's not going to make him jealous (well maybe for a little while) but it will make him look elsewhere.

You used to date his best friend.

You talk a lot about how you love being single, can't imagine be tied down.

He's just not that into you – which sucks but you're a catch, just not his.

Ask him out, seriously just ask him out – what the hell do anyone of know until we bite the bullet, and do it. Rejection is a mother fucker, but it's also a sure fire way to get the answer and date the hell out of him, or move on.


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  3. Good bits of advice and important to remember sometimes!

    Deb | Debra Bros Blog

  4. Yes! I am ALL FOR just biting the bullet and going for it. There's no harm in trying, right? ;)

    Lost in the Haze

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